THE ESSENCE OF MAN AND ITS NEED OF COMMUNICATION
LOVE AS A SOLUTION TO THE PROBLEM OF MAN
LOVE AS AN ACTIVE POWER OF MAN: LOVE IS WILL
But this union with the loved person can never be at any price. It can't be achieved by renouncing the own liberty and the own essence. Mature love means union providing that the own integrity, individuality and liberty were preserved. Love is an active power of Man, a power which go through barriers which isolate Man of his fellow Men to link him to them. Love is an activity. Love isn't a passive affection because loving is to give instead of getting.
When I love, I feel alive, I feel my force and will, my richness, my immense power. Such feeling of vitality and power revitalize me and makes me feel absolutely alive.
As I give something of myself, I give my will, my capacity to make happy, my capacity to love. I give of myself, of what is more precious on me, of my life itself. I give what is alive on me - my happiness, my comprehension, my knowledge, my sadness- I give of whatever is alive on me. Giving of my life, this way, human being enrich his fellow Men, enhance the feeling of life of the other person at the same time he enhances his own feeling of life.
And, just when I give, something alive is born inside of me because I'm really grateful to the other person for letting fulfill myself, for letting me feel alive, for increasing all the life inside of me and for letting me know the beauty of generosity.
LOVE AS A RESULT OF THE BEAUTY OF LIFE
Loving is only possible from maturity. Only from maturity it's possible to develop the own capacity to generate love and to assume that to be loved involve the previous effort of loving. A person matures when he/she becomes humble and understands that loving is only possible from humility. When we love, we see in the loved person the beauty of his/her life and the beauty of all that is alive in him/her. Loving is to see that his/her life is more (or so) beautiful than the own life. Humility let us see what is beautiful in the other people. Without humility we are blind and absolutely unable to love.
Loving also makes us to evolve and to increase humanity because love powers our humility as a result of the beauty that love give us of the loved person. This need of improvement is a consequence of the own will of achieving the beauty and vitality seen in the loved person.
ACTIVE ELEMENTS OF LOVE: CARE, RESPONSABILITY, RESPECT AND KNOWLEDGE
But the worry about the loved person must never cross the barrier of respect, the barrier of respecting the other person as he/she is, the barrier of respecting his/her liberty and being aware of its unique individuality. Respect means to worry and to struggle for the happiness of the loved person, for his/her growth, so as to he/she achieve his/her dreams and he/she grows like he/she is. For that you must have faith in the other person, you must be sure of his/her fundamental attitudes and you must trust his/her love.
If we don't trust the loved person, if we are afraid of not being loved, the real fear, although often unconscious, is to love. The real concern is the fear of not being able to generate love in the other person, is the fear of having to accept the own inability of committing oneself without guarantees. Loving is an act of faith and generosity and who hasn't much faith and generosity, also hasn't much love.
However, It's not possible to respect a person if we don't know him/her. Only if I know deeply the other person, I can know the reasons of his/her worries although he/she don't tell me anything. I must be sensitive to the other person, I must concentrate my energy on knowing objectively the other person to be able to see his/her reality. This way I will be aware of his/her needs. Who has not much ability for concentration, is unable to love.
Besides, Knowledge is also connected to a more fundamental issue, which is the matter of love. Loving is also a consequence of the need of Man of knowing the "secret of Man". Love makes grow inside me a need of knowing the loved person to find out all the beauty and life which, I think, exists inside him/her. Love is the one feeling that has, as a result, this need. Therefore, love let me know the other person and, at the same time, let me know myself because only when you love, you can know what you really are and how you really are.
KINDS OF LOVE
Erotic love is exclusive, but it loves in the other person the whole mankind, all what is alive. It's exclusive only in the sense that I can join fully and intensely only with one person.
CONCLUSION AND PERSONAL OPINION
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